February 24, 2015

Ask Me Anything!

Ask a Metalhead, Steff

Steff Metal 21st

Today is my 30th birthday. It’s quite a strange feeling, actually. I do not feel 30. Even though I know logically that nothing has really changed, except that another day has passed, I am a little nervous that now that I am 30, I’m going to be expected to do the kinds of things that 30-year-olds do. Normal, boring things. Maybe now that I’m 30 I shouldn’t be listening to metal anymore? Maybe now that I say I’m “too old for this shit!” it’s not actually a funny phrase anymore – it’s just true.

But then, on the other hand, it’s kind of cool being 30. After all, I’ve survived for three decades. I’ve got to do some pretty cool shit. I’ve realised several lifelong dreams and met and loved some amazing people. I am blessed to have many good things in my life – a caring husband, a wonderful family, amazing friends, a steady, interesting job, engaging hobbies, a beautiful house in a country that’s peaceful, the chance to travel and explore new ideas and to dream. I am eternally grateful to live in a country where turning 30 is a perfectly normal thing to do, and I’m able to do it with food in my belly and my wine glass full.

Steff Metal 21st

Photo taken at my 21st birthday, which was also a toga party. I look so young! My hair was so short! Yes, the dude in the back is dressed as a statue.

I don’t feel 30. I feel like the same person I was at my 21st, nine years ago, even though I am not. I feel like I need ten more years in my 20s to be ready to be 30!

Right, no more waffling. None of you care about my existential angst.

So, today I’m doing something a bit different – this is called Ask Me Anything. It means exactly that – you can ask me any question, about any thing you want, and I’ll answer. Have you ever wanted to ask why I quit working as a freelancer? Do you want to know what my favourite album of all time is? Are you interested in my opinion on something topical? Have you ever wondered how I got into metal or why I started this site? Do you want to hear more stories about my cat? Well, now is the day to ask!

Post your question in the comments, or add to Facebook, or email me at – if you ask, I’ll keep your question anonymous. I’ve already had several interesting questions emailed through, so I’ll post the answers probably on Monday. Get on it!

4 Comments on “Ask Me Anything!

February 26, 2015 at 5:20 am

First of all happy birthday Steff!!! All the best, may you always be happy and healthy!

Don;t ever fell in the trap of believing that you shouldn’t do something because you’re supposedly too old to do it according to mainstream perception! If we were giving a fuck about what mainstream perception thinks then we wouldn’t be here right now, me writing about this to you because we would both be behind the PC screen at a desk of a company that produces something boring, wearing a conservative dress and suit that we wouldn’t probably give even to our grandparents to wear and we’d live this amazingly exciting 8,00 – 17.00 routine!

Yikes!! If that’s the “normal” life that mainstream society thinks it’s the proper way for people to live then sorry I’m checking out! I prefer to be labeled as abnormal, strange, satanist whatever!

I’m 38 and I still listen to heavy metal, still attending shows and still wearing my black metal tshirts with pride! Obviously I don’t wear them every day and at work for obvious reasons but outside of work they’re usually part of my casual attire!

I consider myself a serious person who can differentiate between situations, work and pleasure and there’s nothing in my appearance that would make anyone think I’m not “normal” (ok, apart from the long hair albeit not by much!).

All of the above are actually my question to you Steff! What do you think about this issue since it seems to bother you too as well? Should a person stop doing things, behave in a certain way and enjoying certain stuff after a specific age? Should a person conforms to society’s expectations, compromise and to what extent?

Sorry for my long post but I totally feel you on this!!

February 25, 2015 at 4:27 pm

Why are there no strong female characters in your book?

February 25, 2015 at 2:19 pm

What made you decide to self-publish? Do you think it was the right decision? Do you think the indie “gold rush” is over? How do you recommend new, unpublished writers approach their career?

February 24, 2015 at 8:33 pm

Cool idea Steff! I want to know, if you were stranded on a desert island with some food and water and an MP3 player with only enough space for 3 albums on it, which 3 would you choose?

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